30 April 2010

TGIF #5: something funny

it was a stressful week for us: bathroom's still a wreck (the job's unfinished). another leakage problem; bank issues and all... so, i was actually going to jot down my friday rants today, but i changed my mind. i'd rather be relaxed than to add wrinkles on my forehead. the ranting will have their own time. i want a cheerful weekend. i need some laughs!

here are five funny stuffs about marrriage that i grabbed from net surfing:


Man: Is there any way for long life?
Dr: Get married.

Man: Will it help?
Dr: No, but the thought of long life will never come.


Why do couples hold hands during their wedding?

It's a formality just like two boxers shaking hands before the fight begins!



Wife: Darling today is our anniversary, what should we do?

Husband: Let us stand in silence for 2 minutes.


It's funny when people discuss Love Marriage vs Arranged.

It's like asking someone, if suicide is better or being murdered


It is difficult to understand GOD . He makes such beautiful things as women and then he turns them into Wives



If u r married please ignore this MSG,

For everyone else: Happy Independence Day


Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you say.

After marriage, he'll fall asleep before you finish.


There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage


Galfriends r like chocolates,
Taste gud anytime.

Lovers r like PIZZAS, Hot n spicy, eaten frequently.
Wife r like Dal RICE, eaten when there`s no choice


Man receives telegram: Wife dead should be buried or cremated?

Man: Don't take any chances. Burn the body and bury the ash.


Prospective husband: Do you have a book called 'Man, The Master of Women'?

Salesgirl: The fiction department is on the other side, sir.



Q: Why dogs don't marry?

A: Because they are already leading a dog's life!


There was this guy who told his woman that he loved her so much that he would go through hell for her. They got married and now he is going thru hell.


Fact of life: One woman brings you into this world crying & the other ensures you continue to do so for the rest of your life !


now i'm stress relieved!

29 April 2010

patti austin: a doze of solace

i just got home from zendra's check up. i didn't bring with me the stroller, 'coz it's too heavy for me to carry when travelling. it's not easy to pull it up when you're alone in the tram. the tram's stairs were too high. i just carry my daughter with me on the way to the hospital. it's the going back home that's tiring. i was carrying along a plastic bag of groceries on my left and zendra fell asleep in my right arms. whew! i'm sweating under the sun.

anyway, i got home finally! i can't feel my arms. gosh she's too heavy now. first thing i did is to turn the radio on. yeah,i need some music!

"....although music is sweet,
but the song's incomplete..
now in my life...
boy in my life..
something is missing...
it's the truth,
yes, it's true..
still there's no me and you,
here in my life..
boy in my life...
something is missing..."

wow, i'm in heaven hearing patti austin's in my life song! i came to know her music when i was in freshmen years in high school. i love her type of music: r & b, soul/jazz...sarap pakinggan! (nice to hear)

patti was born on august 10, 1948 in new york, new york

Selected discography

  • End of a Rainbow, CTI, 1976.
  • Havana Candy, CTI, 1977.
  • Live at the Bottom Line, Epic, 1979.
  • Body Language, CTI, 1980.
  • Every Home Should Have One, Qwest, 1981.
  • In My Life, CTI, 1983.
  • Patti Austin, Qwest, 1984.
  • Gettin' Away with Murder, Qwest, 1985.
  • The Real Me, Qwest, 1988.
  • Love Is Gonna Getcha, GRP, 1990.
  • Carry On, GRP, 1991.
  • Live, GRP, 1992.
  • That Secret Place, GRP, 1994.
  • In and Out of Love, Concord Jazz, 1998.
  • Street of Dreams, Intersound, 1999.

here's the in my life song grabbed in youtube.

28 April 2010

bathroom's a wreck

we had just changed the flush knob of our WC (water closet) more than a month ago because it doesn't close well. the water keeps on running all night and it made our WC yellow. i think we paid 100euro for the labor and new flush knob. anyway, about a week ago, my hub noticed a leak coming from the wall, so he guessed the tube inside is the problem. my hub's right.

we had an appointment today around 9am. the italian plumber is punctual (as they always do). he said, he has to remove the tiles to change the whole tube. so be it!

the problem is, they have no tiles the same as ours. hmm? any solution to that?

plumber at work

my daughter zendra keeps on going inside the bathroom and so curious about that flame thing. he said we'll pay about 125euro. we'll see about that when the labor's finished.

now where do i pee?

26 April 2010

10 commandments

by helen steiner rice

* 1. Thou shalt be happy.

* 2. Thou shalt use thy talents to make others glad.

* 3. Thou shalt rise above defeat and trouble.

* 4. Thou shalt look upon each day as a new day.

* 5. Thou shalt always do thy best and leave the rest to God.

* 6. Thou shalt not waste thy time and energy in useless worry.

* 7. Thou shalt look only on the bright side of life.

* 8. Thou shalt not be afraid of tomorrow.

* 9. Thou shalt have a kind word and a kind deed for everyone.

* 10. Thou shalt say each morning -- I am a child of God and nothing can
hurt me. *

23 April 2010

TGIF #4: something on my birthday

i turned 39 yesterday. i'll do something fun or a special treat, i silently thought. i woke up around 6am and my hub's already having his coffee. he greeted and kissed me. "happy birthday...now, here's my credit card. buy what you want". ghee! would that mean i could buy diamonds? hahaha. my smile reached my ear. the dilemma begins: what do i buy - what do i like.

for today's five (it's friday again!), here are what happened on my birthday.

1.) i know our curtains are yelling for laundry for months, i'm just continuously ignoring their complains. i decided to clean the windows (yeah you heard it right!) it should have been my hub's job. anyway, i just did. what a nice day to start my birthday. i headed to my chinese friend's store and bought some curtains. i treated my windows a touch of lavander. cool!

2.) my son is at school. zendra and i headed to piazza duomo. my daughter haven't experienced feeding the doves herself. months ago, she panicked when doves surrounded her. i need to test her again. hurray! she wasn't scared at all. she enjoyed feeding the doves, and keeps on running around the wide space in front of the duomo di milano. she fell asleep on our way home.

3). for snack i bought 1 box of doughnuts. don't ask me how many minutes i finished the 6 doughs. =) for lunch i treated myself with one of my fave pinoy dishes, spicy bopis. i don't know how to cook that. i just bought it from my aunt tuding. i am so full, i could just burst. hahaha!

4.) i don't really celebrate my birthday. the last time i really had a party was when i turned 30. my colleagues at work contributed and bought me gifts. wow! what can i say? i got two United Colors of Benetton bags! a big black and a small white. yahooooooo! i love UCB!

5.) my mom cooked some pancit (rice sticks), and fried chicken. then my aunt patty baked a custard cake for me. we had a small party before work. i found a greeting poster on the wall next to my locker. i was really ecstatic! i wish i could live that long - 4 thousand years, giuliana wrote. she's american, but lived in italy for decades. she still remember speaking english though. the italians love the pancit. one of them, (patrizia, the blonde) kidded, (translated in english) "we've been eating this spaghetti di soia (pancit) for 10 years and we're somehow filipinized". not to mention the fried chicken. it can compete the KFC. =) mom's the best!

all in all, i had a great birthday. my heart can't contain my happiness.

i'm still flapping my hub's credit card.
hmmm...still thinking what to buy...

22 April 2010

39 today

Birthday is about being glad i was born;

a day of looking back and

remembering the changes that made me up

to be what i am today.

thank you Lord for the 39 years!

21 April 2010

birthday greetings

(mich did this)
















you are

all loved.

Facebook Greetings:

16 April 2010

TGIF #3: something garfield

for today's five, i would like to share one of my fave cartoon characters: GARFIELD

Garfield began in the seventies created by Jim Davis. He was an unknown cartoonist then, publishing strips featuring insects. at that time, most of the strips in the newspapers were all about dogs, so he finally decided to base his new strip about a cat. the protagonist's name came from Jim's grandfather: James Davis Garfield. in june 19, 1978, garfield debuted in 41 american newspapers.

here are Five (funny) Garfield's Laws:

cats move at a speed proportionate to the amount of food at their destination. they may even exceed the speed of sound.

cats are independent. cats are loners. they are underfoot only when you're carrying groceries.

cats instinctively know the precise moment their owners will awake. then they awaken them ten minutes sooner.

cats are naturally attracted to only one type of human being: the type who is allergic to cats.

cats can't hear commands. cats can't understand cajoling, but they do sense when you want to take them to the veterinarian.

that's it!

happy meowwing...

13 April 2010

looking back

maybe it's the honking of the jeeps or tricycles. maybe it's the smell of the fish ball or banana-q. or .. maybe i'm just homesick! living away from home often times gives me that urge to go home and experience the things i was used to. it has been a long time i'm living here and i only had 3 vacations during those 15 years. whew! i can't help but look back...

it was one of the cold days of february 1995, -2°C of temperature, i remember -- when another filipina sneaked up on me while i was standing in queque at questura (foreigners' bureau). it was five o'clock in the morning and, probably i'm the 400th person on the line! "how long have you been standing here?" asked the filipina who'd just arrived. "well, i've been freezing out here since five o'clock", i replied. she just shook her head and said, "it's hard to be an immigrant here, isn't it?", she added followed by a deep breath while travelling her eyes to the diffferent nationalities in line. her name is haydee and she had just arrived. the office will be opened at 8:30 am, so while waiting for our turn to get ourselves an appointment in applying for permit of stay here in italy, we passed our time sharing experiences of living in the fast-phased city of milan.

when i first came here back in 1994, i felt like a little kid wondering about all the new things i see -- the places, the people, the foods, etc. i asked myself "how could i possibly live in this strange place?" i simply panicked, but told myself "it's all right, everything's gonna be fine".
i think everyone who first got here experienced the way i did. being a stranger - i'm expected to be a little stupid. i mean, being stupid is the pattern, or the norm, because you don't know what everything is all about. i can exist on the level for weeks or months without reprimand. together with hundreds, i'm granted broad freedom and immunities. i can go on taking pictures, wearing what i want, looking haggard...

i can do walking around dazed, squinting into fold-out maps...i don't know how to talk to people because most of the italians don't know english language, i don't know how to get anywhere, what ticket to buy for travelling; don't know what the money means...whew! all those things made me feel stupidly funny!

it's just nice watching the italian people around. i was amazed of their blue, green or gray eyes; their mannequin looks; the blond hairs and towering heights. but the adolescent ones were much to notice. i keep seeing teenage males wearing enormous pants the two or three teenagers could occupy. pants that a clown would probably refuse to wear. the young men wear these pants so low, so that the waist is about knee level and pants' butt drags on the ground. what i want to know is how do they buy these pants? do they try them on to make sure they don't fit?
for teenage girls, they wear a lot of earrings, maximum of 6 pairs each ear, plus one or two on their nose. i wonder how do they manage them? contrary to the big pants, girls wear the so-tight fit ones and with a low waist cut letting the people see their navels. i even see some bald headed teenage girls, or long-haired guys. what had happened to the teenagers now?

whew! totally, some kind of wanders when you're not home and had grown up with the conservative environment and society, filipino culture, which mainly based on traditional values.

but, that's just the way it is. being far from home, you tend to miss all! the culture, the way of living at least "normally" compared to a strange country. life could be good here. with a good-paying job, you can even buy things you want, as you never did in your own home. sometimes, i tend to wish i could live here: having high standard of living and the comforts. but, i certainly love my "real home", the philippines where i grew up.

My family and friends are all there, and i can't trade it for something else...

Tuesday Filler

i was net surfing and found this article. allow me to share this insights with you.

With the divorce rate over 50 percent, too many are apparently making a serious mistake in deciding who to spend the rest of their life with. To avoid becoming a "statistic," try to internalize these 10 insights.

You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you're married.
The classic mistake. Never marry potential. The golden rule is, if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don't get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "You actually can expect people to change after their married... for the worst!"
So when it comes to the other person's spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.

You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character.
Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in love" often means, "I'm in lust." Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person's character?
Here are four character traits to definitely check for:
Humility: Does this person believe that "doing the right thing" is more important than personal comfort?
Do I want to be more like this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?
Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people? How does s/he treat people s/he doesn't have to be nice to? Does s/he do volunteer work? Give charity?
Responsibility: Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he's going to do?
Happiness: Does this person like himself? Does s/he enjoy life? Is s/he emotionally stable?
Ask yourself: Do I want to be more like this person? Do I want to have a child with this person? Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?

You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what a woman needs most.
Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn't "get it." Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of a woman and to satisfy them.
The unique need of a woman is to be loved -- to feel that she is the most important person in her husband's life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention.
This is most apparent in Judaism's approach to intimacy. The Torah obligates the husband to meet the intimate needs of his wife. Intimacy is always on the woman's terms. Men are goal-oriented, especially when it comes this area. As a wise woman once pointed out, "Men have two speeds: on and off." Women are experience-oriented. When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things happen.

You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goals and priorities.
There are three basic ways we connect with another person:
chemistry and compatibility
share common interests
share common life goal
Make sure you share the deeper level of connection that sharing life goals provide. After marriage, the two of you will either grow together or grow apart. To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you're "living for," while you're single -- and then find someone who has come to the same conclusion as you.
This is the true definition of a "soul mate." A soul mate is a goal mate -- two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life's purpose and therefore share the same priorities, values and goals.

You choose the wrong person because you get intimately involved too quickly.
Intimacy before the commitment of marriage can be a big problem because it often precludes a fully honest exploration of important issues. Physical involvement tends to cloud one's mind. And a clouded mind is not inclined to make good decisions.
It is not necessary to take a "test drive" in order to find out if a couple is physically compatible. If you do your homework and make sure you are intellectually and emotionally compatible, you don't have to worry about it. Of all the studies done on divorce, incompatibility in the intimate arena is almost never cited as a main reason why people divorce.

You pick the wrong person because you do not have a deeper emotional connection with this person.
To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not, ask: "Do I respect and admire this person?"
This does not mean, "Am I impressed by this person?" We are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. You should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc.
Also ask: "Do I trust this person?" This also means, "Is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I can rely on him/her?

You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you don't feel emotionally safe.
Ask yourself the following questions: Do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully be myself and express myself with this person? Does this person make me feel good about myself? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way? Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way!
Are you afraid of this person in any way? You should not feel you need to monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it. If you're afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there's a problem with the relationship.
Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you.
Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don't feel the other person is trying to control you. Controlling behaviors are a sign of an abusive person. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. There's a big difference between "controlling" and "making suggestions." A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is made for their benefit.

You pick the wrong person because you don't put everything on the table.
Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be brought up for discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way to evaluate how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work together. Over the course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably arise. You need to know now, before making a commitment: Can you resolve your differences and find compromises that work for both of you?
Never be afraid to let the person know what bothers you. This is also a way for you to test how vulnerable you can be with this person. If you can't be vulnerable, then you can't be intimate. The two go hand in hand.

You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problems and unhappiness.
If you are unhappy and single, you'll probably be unhappy and married, too.
If you are unhappy and single, you'll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate them.
If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You'll feel better, and your future spouse will thank you.

You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in a triangle.
To be "triangulated" means a person is emotionally dependent on someone or something else while trying to develop another relationship. A person who hasn't separated from his or her parents is the classic example of triangulation. People can also be triangulated with things as well, such as work, drugs, Internet, hobbies, sports or money.
Be careful that you and your partner are free of triangles. The person caught in the triangle cannot be fully emotionally available to you. You will not be their number one priority. And that's no basis for a marriage.

12 April 2010

shabby me

i woke up yesterday around 6:30am. when i went to the bathroom, i felt that strange dizziness. my head is spinning, so i went to bed again instead of going to the kitchen. i dont know why i feel so dizzy. maybe because i haven't slept well last saturday. maybe my blood pressure's low. my hub prepared breakfast, but i didn't eat right away. i can't stand well. i feel so bad. lot of things to do, but i can't simply move. otherwise, i'll fall down with this nausea. i instructed my son to finish his other assignments. i know he's been "stressed" the last few days for the many math problems & assignments we've done. there are still two pages to study on his history subject and an italian poem to memorize. i dont know why teachers always give loads of assignments during vacation. it's not really vacation for the kids.

jaki just stared at his books. i asked him again to finish them all. --silence-- nothing... he never speak a word. he got his jacket and headed at the door. i don't know where he learn to walk away like that. i yelled, "dove vai?" (where are you going?). he said, "tu mi tratta male, mamma" (you're treating me bad ma), "me ne vado" (i will go away). i didn't expect this kind of reaction. i was feeling so dizzy and my son's walking out of me? so i can't help it, i yelled again, "jaki, lo sai che non sto bene eh, voglio che tu finisce tutto, cosi poi riposare e sei gia pronto per lunedi. sto cercando di auitarti, anche se mi gira la testa" (you know that i'm not feeling so well and i want you to finish everything, so you can rest and be ready for monday. i'm trying to help even i'm sick)

i never meant to yell at him. i just feel my head spinning and i feel like vomitting.i just found myself crying. after some minutes, jaki approached me: "mamma, scusami" (Ma, i'm sorry). i said sorry too, for the yelling, then i hugged him. he kissed me and he cried too. i explained to him that finishing his assignments is not for me, but for him. i felt good inside because my son said sorry. i taught him to apologize if he has done wrong. and i guess he remembered it well. he's smart enough to know good and bad actions.

i never thought my sunday morning could be a tearjerker. i was in bed the whole day, never even took dinner, nor touched my laptop.

i just hate being shabby...

11 April 2010


when i first heard of the pinoy concert here, i was excited. rey valera is one of the pinoy singers i want to see in concert. i have been holding these tickets for quite sometime. it was scheduled last february 21, 2010, but was postponed for some problems. it was re-scheduled for april 11, 2010. only last week that i have known it was finally shelved! of course, the tickets are refundable. it was just sad that i wouldn't be able to watch them here.